{ #EmpoweringWithYesProject }

One of the beautiful things about the Abundant Mama Project (AMP) is that it provides an opportunity to meet other like-minded Mamas around the world.  Snow is one of those women who I connected with early on … although I know I’m not the only one who feels a connection with her.  She is known to be a great listener in the group, someone who can offer heart-felt support, she is honest, real, thoughtful, sincere and fun!  In the forum where us Alumni AMPers are able to continue our practice of being Abundant Mamas, she recently posted the following:

I've been doing a little pondering, and maybe a little mama guilt is sneaking up on me, but I've come to realize I don't really let my kids "do" things.  They play and have their toys, dress themselves, sometimes get snacks themselves, pick up, etc but when it comes to helping me (say in the kitchen) I am always hesitant or quick to say no.

 I realize a lot of this comes from not wanting to clean up a mess (not to mention the wasted money on items that get spilled/broken), and avoiding the sibling argument that's bound to happen, but in the big picture, the mess doesn't really matter.. the extra $3 I might have to spend, doesn't really matter, the arguing, well how else are they going to learn to share and take turns? I was checking out this photo project and the photo of this young boy holding a bowl of eggs completely stopped me. I would never, I mean never even consider putting a bowl of eggs on my son's lap on the counter. But, why not? It sounds so silly when I really think about it. Its all about 'teachable moments' and how we are using our days to really teach our children something. 

So why am I still continuing to say no?   How can I reframe my thoughts to allow them to participate, learn, establish new skills and confidence?  I truly feel like I am holding them back in certain ways which would never be my intention. Its always just so. much. easier. to do it myself.  With the abundant kids bliss list on my mind, I thought about all the things my kids would probably love to do that I've been too scared or impatient to let them do.

Just a little food for thought on a Wednesday night for you mamas… I think I really need to reframe my daily intentions around what I am going to teach and share WITH my children, rather than what I need to accomplish that day or focus on for myself. Somewhere along the line I feel like my perspective has skewed and I'm reminded that these days with young ones is short and I want to make the best of it.  Sticky, messy memories and all :) 

So many of us Mamas could relate to what she said, and the response in the forum was pretty profound.  

So, over the next few days, us two Washington-grown, coffee-and-photography-loving Mamas started brainstorming about our own photo project.  And here is what we came up with.

Thank you, Snow, for being such an inspiration!


What: #EmpoweringWithYesProject 

Where: Instagram, use the hashtag above, that’s all you have to do to join this easy-going project.  We’ve already started, check out the photos others have contributed!

When:  Each Sunday, Snow and I will post a picture of our kids in the Yes Aftermath.  It can be a picture from earlier in the week, our point is not to stress too much about the photo quality itself (our iPhone may be all we have in that moment, or perhaps we are able to orchestrate having our DSLR handy) either way we want it to be about the meaning, less about the perfect photo.  

Who: Anyone who is around kids often and wants to provide them with moments of empowerment. 

Why: (See Snow’s words above!)


We are hoping that, by reaching out to more people we can inspire each other to give our kids tools they need to learn, to accomplish, to try, to think through and learn about life by saying YES to these teachable moments.  

Leave any questions you might have in the comments below!

“We cannot teach people anything; we can only help them discover it within themselves.”

-Galileo Galilei


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